I do not know if there is an afterlife, but I can only imagine how it would be. The Netflix series “The haunting of Bly manor” made me think a lot. What would happen if you died with unfinished business, without your consent, or if you love someone so much that you can’t let go? Do you get trapped in the afterlife?
In my perspective, the ghost of Bly manor who had lung disease for years was killed by her sister. Maybe her sister killed her to end her suffering, but by the look of things, she didn’t really want to go. I feel like she wanted to see her daughter grow. She didn’t want to leave her.
When she died, she stayed present in the manor. Each night looking for her daughter killing people standing in her path, but as years passed, she started to forget memories of her living life and that’s why the ghost loses features in her face.
I don’t know if it’s because I am a mom now, but I actually find the story really sad.
Loving someone so much to stay trapped in the afterlife, without being able to see your kids. Every single day, looking for them and being angry for not finding them. This would be torture!
I actually understand why we would stay around if we died when your kids are at a young age. Even if they were older… You want to make sure they stay safe, that they are alright. We have so much love for our kids, just thinking of being away from them breaks your heart.
If there was an afterlife, one thing I would wish is that we don’t get trapped with anger, pain and sadness.
I am just brushing the surface here as I don’t want to tell you every single detail. You should watch it!
Below is the official trailer.
If you watched it, let me know your thoughts!
This past week my son decided he would sleep through the night without feeding. All I had to do is to give him his pacifier once and we had the chance to sleep peacefully until 6 am.
Well, that didn’t last long. He did that only 2 days in a row. The night after that… OMG! The tantrum! A raging moment that lasted more than 2 hours. He didn’t want to go back to sleep. I fed him, I rocked him, I let him cry a little… Nothing was working. He cried to exhaustion.
This was it of my full night sleep… every other night was the same as before… feeding him around 2 to 3 am. He’s lucky that I am a very patient person. Maybe too patient… maybe I shouldn’t have gone to rock him so many times… but when your kid is crying and he can’t tell you what’s going on, it’s hard not to react.
As parents, we have to constantly remind ourselves that the struggles we go through now are only temporary. This is part of your child’s development and soon will be a thing of the past.
Maybe the big cry was a milestone that is about to happen. Maybe I will soon be able to sleep a full night (dreaming). Who knows, but let me tell you, babies are lucky they can nap during the day. I will make sure to remind him that when he’s a teenager.
Being a parent is hard and full of surprises. Each day is a new adventure. We have to put on our seat belt and be ready for the ride!
Who knew that a month would change you so much. Within a month you perfected your crawling and mommy and daddy have to run after you constantly to keep you out of things you shouldn’t touch. For some reason, you love the floor air vents…
You started to get attached to things you are holding and pull some tantrum when we try to take it away.
You also love jumping and every time mommy and daddy have their hands under your arms, you start jumping.
You love keeping us awake for 2 hours during the night, just because… I thought by now you would sleep the whole night… I guess you are having sleep regression and hopefully you will go back to normal soon. Daddy needs to work in the morning. 🙂
You can now stand on your own with support and walk clumsily with your walker. Soon enough you will be running!
Today, I sat you in your crib and you pulled yourself to standing all by yourself. It is good you can’t sit on your own yet. Mommy and Daddy will have to lower your crib very soon so you can’t fall on the ground.
Mommy looks forward to see you grow. What do you have in store next?
To the next adventure!
I have recently started to listen “The mom room” podcast and let me tell you, Renee, the host, is spot on and so real about the subject of being a mom and how we can bring ourselves down easily.
As a new mom, I have been putting a lot of pressure on myself. I have been very unsure of myself and questioning about my way of parenting and if I was doing the right things.
I can’t believe my son is almost 9 month old and I still feel so insecure. I am sure I will be for the rest of my life because there is so many stage in the life of a child. It will never stop changing.
In the posdcast, she defines momposters as a mom who’s suffer self-doubt, compare to others, fear of judgment and feeling inadequate.
I feel a bit guilty of doing this. I know someone that I follow on Instagram that has a kid about the same age as my son. Every time I see a milestone that my son didn’t achieve yet, I wonder if I am doing things right. Maybe there is something I am not doing.
The pandemic doesn’t help with that as we are confined and not able to see other people and talk to other moms and I have to tell myself that I am doing my best.
I’ve been following groups on facebook and asking questions, but it is not the same and often you compare yourself and the advices you get makes you feel bad…
I have to remember that each child is different and he will do things on his own pace.
Sometimes, there is questions that you hesitate to ask because you don’t want to be judged and that increases self-doubt.
The episode of the podcast made me realize that social media can lead to comparing to others and to be honest, depending on who you follow, it could be false representation, but still we compare ourselves to those.
What I took from the episode is to stop comparing yourself, be yourself, take advises you need and leave those that doesn’t apply or don’t work for you to the side and just do your best.
A child doesn’t come with an instruction manual and each one of them are different and only you can raise your kid with your own values and beliefs.
Let see if I can apply these from now on… 🙂
Until next time, have a wonderful day!
Having a baby is difficult enough, but never in the world I would have thought of raising a child during a pandemic…
It is just making it even more difficult… If we could pause the newborn stage until this mess is over it would be fine, but now that my little guy is 7 months old, introducing the world to him is very difficult… His growing needs to explore is making things challenging… The weather is extremely warm out, so we can’t go for walks…
How can we satisfy his need to explore? There is so much toys you can buy, so many time you can read a book in a day and the space in our house is very limited… pilling tons of toys is not an option. PLUS, too many toy is like not having enough…
I want to show him so much, I want to teach him so much, but how can I do that when we’re confined between the same 4 walls day in and day out…
I planned to take swim lessons with him, but it’s not going to happen until who knows when… The earlyON centres are closed… how can I offer human contact, other than us, to my child? Video calls isn’t really showing the world to him…
It makes me sad to think that things may not become normal for a long time… This is definitely not how I pictured his first year of life to be and how I would spend time with him… I had better stories cut out in my head… it’s very disappointing.
I know it’s been ages I haven’t posted on my blog. Things have changed a lot in my life in the past year.
From being indecisive about having kids, we finally came to a decision to take the plunge and start our little family.
You may wonder why out of a sudden things changed?
Well… Back at the end of 2018, working with other women who have kids made me realize that I may be missing something great. I started to think that I might live in regret for my whole life.
One day, one of my colleagues told me something that made me change the whole view of things.
What would you regret the most? Having them or not having them?
It was pretty clear what the answer was.
Both of us getting close to our forties, we couldn’t afford to wait for too much longer. It was time for a change.
Since December 29th 2019, we are proud parents of a beautiful little boy named Joshua. It surely changed a lot in our lives, but we have absolutely have no regrets. It’s not always easy, but he’s my whole world. He makes our lives brighter and he completes us.
He’s now 4 months old and he has so much energy already. He started to roll over from his back to stomach and giggles. Such a sweet little boy.
Sometimes it takes a while to realize some things and it’s better now than never right?
In the past few weeks, I have been a little bit off. I made mistakes, forget to do things, been frustrated with things I used to be able to do and learn with ease and now it is just not going as well as it used to.
Sometimes I forget I’m approaching the 40’s, I am slowly realizing that if you don’t change your rhythm, things will start to fall apart. As you age, you can’t do as many things with the same intensity.
Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying I am old but I came to realize, that I can’t continue on the same rhythm than when I was 20 years old.
Could it be my body telling me something? Maybe 6-hour sleep every night isn’t enough? Maybe I try to do too many things? Something’s gotta give when you’re exhausted one day or another.
When you are tired and try to do too many things, you end up not being able to focus fully on them and the things you used to enjoy and love doing slowly feel like a burden. You become to think that you’re not good, you lose patience for stupid reasons, you just start to be depressed and want to hide.
I may be in denial of what my body is telling me, but realization is the first step to fix things and for my next step I intend to stop looking at my phone before bed. Yes, I am guilty of looking if there’s something new on Instagram, Facebook or even look if I have new views on my blog which end most of the time in a waste of time. This could be 15 to 30 mins more sleep I could get.
If you’re are in the same situation, what will you do to help yourself get more rest?
We need to pause, evaluate, determine the problem and act on it!
Have you ever lost your purpose? Feeling worthless? Felt like the smallest challenge was impossible to undertake? You’re not alone!
Back in 2015, I started a job that I liked. I’ve put in crazy hours, I didn’t mind because I was feeling like I belonged, that I was valued and that I made a difference and was seeing opportunities for the future. After 6 months working there, the management changed and everything I worked hard for turned upside down, duties were taken away, things changed drastically, it quickly became something that I was dreading. I came from leading a project to being pushed to the sideline and just do the work as I was told without any explanations. They were changing processes. I kept saying to myself that things will get better, but things just got worst. I no more felt valued.
It was a difficult time for me, I was very depressed, became negative, it was hard to smile and became an angry person deep down inside. I went on for months like this. I was feeling useless, worthless… I was exhausted due to those crazy hours I was still putting in as I felt it was expected from me and I still cared. All this anger was building up within and it started to show in my health. That’s when I decided it was enough. I needed to do something and quick.
I decided to take some guitar lessons. It was my escape from work, my reason to leave at a regular time at night. I soon realized that I had let myself go so deep in my work, I forgot about #1, myself. I stopped doing things I loved. I always loved music. I remembered when I was a teenager, I wanted to be a singer. It brought me back to the roots. Without realizing it, I was trying to find who I was and I questioned myself in many ways. Why did I leave that all behind, why did I let myself go that far, why is this happening to me, Am I the problem? […]
Learning guitar is making me focus on something else. It challenged me and still does today. I have and had a teachers that inspires me, which is helping tremendously. Learning guitar became a goal. Brought some light into my life. Music turned out to be like meditation for me.
I chose the guitar because it’s a social instrument. You can bring it almost anywhere, you can sing while playing it. It’s a self-sufficient instrument. You don’t need another instrument to make something sound amazing. Learning guitar is a smaller goal that could lead to a bigger dream.
Besides changing my mind off things, it helped me with my soul-searching. Made me realized that life is short, that if you are not happy where you are, you need to do something about it.
One day, the stars lined up and got a job offer. Was that a sign? Maybe or maybe not, but even if it wasn’t, I still went for it. What did I get to lose?
I still have some work to do in my soul searching and finding my purpose, but I am happier now that I pulled myself out from the toxic environment I was in. I get more inspired, I am more positive. I don’t have this pressure and anger every day…
My message in all this is… If you’re unhappy find something you like, a hobby, learning something new, anything that will change your focus and that you will look forward to. You may not be able to change the situation you are in, but you can change the focus on your life. Just a little something to look forward can change a whole lot in your everyday life. Believe me, I know. When the time is right, everything will eventually fall into place. Sometimes in unexpected ways, but most importantly NEVER forget who you are!
NEVER STOP believing in YOURSELF!
Today on #FoodFriday, I would like to share this easy and comforting recipe.
***Beware! It is addictive!***
I have tried a few different Mac & Cheese recipe, but this one seem to be the tastiest one and it’s so easy to make!
This Mac & Cheese from Terry Crews family recipe will be one of your go-to comfort food from now on! Love cheese and pasta? Look no further! This Mac & Cheese is to die for!
What you will need:
All you need to do is cook the pasta and then mix everything together and bake! for more info, watch the below video or visit the Tasty Website here.
Today on #FoodFriday, I would like to share this easy from Skinny Taste, almost guilt-free recipe since the sauce it basically squash! What a clever idea to make a sauce with a vegetable! It’s a 2 for 1, you get to eat pasta and get your veggies. The good part is that it doesn’t require of a lot of ingredients.
Yeah, maybe you’d say: but sausage isn’t healthy. You might be right, but once in a while I think it’s ok. To make it healthier, I would be tempted to try it with seasoned chicken; maybe a cajun or Mexican style, something with some flavour! What do you guys think?
What you will need:
Read more and get the directions at https://www.skinnytaste.com/pasta-with-butternut-sauce-spicy/#tpTjIZXBfyOYcHqQ.99 or watch the video below.
As I was going through my wordpress reader, I came across this post by Pointless Overthinking which was asking “What is the difference between Living and Surviving?”.
I thought I would answer in my own post.
In my opinion, surviving is living paycheck to paycheck, scraping every penny to make the ends meet. Working your ass off with no rewards, struggling, fighting to stay afloat… no money to have fun. Pretty much living to work and pay bills and that’s it.
In the contrary, living is to work to live. You go to work to be able to enjoy your life. Finding time for hobbies, have fun. Living is part of happiness. Not worrying about the basic things.
Unfortunately, it’s sad to say that not a lot of people are able to live at the fullest. I would say, most of us are in between surviving and living. Most of us are hoping to retire one day, but only part of us will be able to…
In your opinion, what is the difference between the two?
Recently one of my friend who is a singer-songwriter and my previous guitar teacher, launched his debut single “Young” and I thought I would share it with all of you because it’s an amazing song! This song about friendships. He captures well the feelings we have when we become adults, remembering how things were when we were younger. A bit of pop and country twist, I definitely can see this song play on the radio. J.K. Matthews is a hard working young man that has a bright future ahead! I wish his the best of luck with his debut EP which is supposed to come out in the spring 2019.
Don’t miss his new single release on March 15!
Enjoy! Feel free to let me know how you like it and share with your friends.
Today for #FoodFriday I would like to share another yummy recipe that I discovered this week from Cooking Light.
At first, I wasn’t sure about it but told myself I would try it anyway. Let me tell ya, I was surprised. I don’t cook with sage a lot, that’s why I wasn’t sure but I am glad I tried it! It’s not only simple, but it also doesn’t require a lot of ingredients and it’s tasty!
It doesn’t mention to serve it with rice. You could eat it on its own, but I felt it needed something else and the video shows it on rice, so I made plain white rice with it.
Also, I didn’t use the butter and just used the extra juice I had left as a sauce. It would probably taste even better with it but thought I didn’t need the extra fat and I guess it makes it a bit healthier. I would be curious to try it with chicken breast instead of thighs.
I will most definitely do this recipe again!
View instructions here
*** If you try the recipe, I’d love to hear your thoughts!