I know it’s been ages I haven’t posted on my blog. Things have changed a lot in my life in the past year.
From being indecisive about having kids, we finally came to a decision to take the plunge and start our little family.
You may wonder why out of a sudden things changed?
Well… Back at the end of 2018, working with other women who have kids made me realize that I may be missing something great. I started to think that I might live in regret for my whole life.
One day, one of my colleagues told me something that made me change the whole view of things.
What would you regret the most? Having them or not having them?
It was pretty clear what the answer was.
Both of us getting close to our forties, we couldn’t afford to wait for too much longer. It was time for a change.
Since December 29th 2019, we are proud parents of a beautiful little boy named Joshua. It surely changed a lot in our lives, but we have absolutely have no regrets. It’s not always easy, but he’s my whole world. He makes our lives brighter and he completes us.
He’s now 4 months old and he has so much energy already. He started to roll over from his back to stomach and giggles. Such a sweet little boy.
Sometimes it takes a while to realize some things and it’s better now than never right?
In the past few weeks, I have been a little bit off. I made mistakes, forget to do things, been frustrated with things I used to be able to do and learn with ease and now it is just not going as well as it used to.
Sometimes I forget I’m approaching the 40’s, I am slowly realizing that if you don’t change your rhythm, things will start to fall apart. As you age, you can’t do as many things with the same intensity.
Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying I am old but I came to realize, that I can’t continue on the same rhythm than when I was 20 years old.
Could it be my body telling me something? Maybe 6-hour sleep every night isn’t enough? Maybe I try to do too many things? Something’s gotta give when you’re exhausted one day or another.
When you are tired and try to do too many things, you end up not being able to focus fully on them and the things you used to enjoy and love doing slowly feel like a burden. You become to think that you’re not good, you lose patience for stupid reasons, you just start to be depressed and want to hide.
I may be in denial of what my body is telling me, but realization is the first step to fix things and for my next step I intend to stop looking at my phone before bed. Yes, I am guilty of looking if there’s something new on Instagram, Facebook or even look if I have new views on my blog which end most of the time in a waste of time. This could be 15 to 30 mins more sleep I could get.
If you’re are in the same situation, what will you do to help yourself get more rest?
We need to pause, evaluate, determine the problem and act on it!
Have you ever lost your purpose? Feeling worthless? Felt like the smallest challenge was impossible to undertake? You’re not alone!
Back in 2015, I started a job that I liked. I’ve put in crazy hours, I didn’t mind because I was feeling like I belonged, that I was valued and that I made a difference and was seeing opportunities for the future. After 6 months working there, the management changed and everything I worked hard for turned upside down, duties were taken away, things changed drastically, it quickly became something that I was dreading. I came from leading a project to being pushed to the sideline and just do the work as I was told without any explanations. They were changing processes. I kept saying to myself that things will get better, but things just got worst. I no more felt valued.
It was a difficult time for me, I was very depressed, became negative, it was hard to smile and became an angry person deep down inside. I went on for months like this. I was feeling useless, worthless… I was exhausted due to those crazy hours I was still putting in as I felt it was expected from me and I still cared. All this anger was building up within and it started to show in my health. That’s when I decided it was enough. I needed to do something and quick.
I decided to take some guitar lessons. It was my escape from work, my reason to leave at a regular time at night. I soon realized that I had let myself go so deep in my work, I forgot about #1, myself. I stopped doing things I loved. I always loved music. I remembered when I was a teenager, I wanted to be a singer. It brought me back to the roots. Without realizing it, I was trying to find who I was and I questioned myself in many ways. Why did I leave that all behind, why did I let myself go that far, why is this happening to me, Am I the problem? […]
Learning guitar is making me focus on something else. It challenged me and still does today. I have and had a teachers that inspires me, which is helping tremendously. Learning guitar became a goal. Brought some light into my life. Music turned out to be like meditation for me.
I chose the guitar because it’s a social instrument. You can bring it almost anywhere, you can sing while playing it. It’s a self-sufficient instrument. You don’t need another instrument to make something sound amazing. Learning guitar is a smaller goal that could lead to a bigger dream.
Besides changing my mind off things, it helped me with my soul-searching. Made me realized that life is short, that if you are not happy where you are, you need to do something about it.
One day, the stars lined up and got a job offer. Was that a sign? Maybe or maybe not, but even if it wasn’t, I still went for it. What did I get to lose?
I still have some work to do in my soul searching and finding my purpose, but I am happier now that I pulled myself out from the toxic environment I was in. I get more inspired, I am more positive. I don’t have this pressure and anger every day…
My message in all this is… If you’re unhappy find something you like, a hobby, learning something new, anything that will change your focus and that you will look forward to. You may not be able to change the situation you are in, but you can change the focus on your life. Just a little something to look forward can change a whole lot in your everyday life. Believe me, I know. When the time is right, everything will eventually fall into place. Sometimes in unexpected ways, but most importantly NEVER forget who you are!
NEVER STOP believing in YOURSELF!
Today on #FoodFriday, I would like to share this easy and comforting recipe.
***Beware! It is addictive!***
I have tried a few different Mac & Cheese recipe, but this one seem to be the tastiest one and it’s so easy to make!
This Mac & Cheese from Terry Crews family recipe will be one of your go-to comfort food from now on! Love cheese and pasta? Look no further! This Mac & Cheese is to die for!
What you will need:
All you need to do is cook the pasta and then mix everything together and bake! for more info, watch the below video or visit the Tasty Website here.
Today on #FoodFriday, I would like to share this easy from Skinny Taste, almost guilt-free recipe since the sauce it basically squash! What a clever idea to make a sauce with a vegetable! It’s a 2 for 1, you get to eat pasta and get your veggies. The good part is that it doesn’t require of a lot of ingredients.
Yeah, maybe you’d say: but sausage isn’t healthy. You might be right, but once in a while I think it’s ok. To make it healthier, I would be tempted to try it with seasoned chicken; maybe a cajun or Mexican style, something with some flavour! What do you guys think?
What you will need:
Read more and get the directions at https://www.skinnytaste.com/pasta-with-butternut-sauce-spicy/#tpTjIZXBfyOYcHqQ.99 or watch the video below.
As I was going through my wordpress reader, I came across this post by Pointless Overthinking which was asking “What is the difference between Living and Surviving?”.
I thought I would answer in my own post.
In my opinion, surviving is living paycheck to paycheck, scraping every penny to make the ends meet. Working your ass off with no rewards, struggling, fighting to stay afloat… no money to have fun. Pretty much living to work and pay bills and that’s it.
In the contrary, living is to work to live. You go to work to be able to enjoy your life. Finding time for hobbies, have fun. Living is part of happiness. Not worrying about the basic things.
Unfortunately, it’s sad to say that not a lot of people are able to live at the fullest. I would say, most of us are in between surviving and living. Most of us are hoping to retire one day, but only part of us will be able to…
In your opinion, what is the difference between the two?
Recently one of my friend who is a singer-songwriter and my previous guitar teacher, launched his debut single “Young” and I thought I would share it with all of you because it’s an amazing song! This song about friendships. He captures well the feelings we have when we become adults, remembering how things were when we were younger. A bit of pop and country twist, I definitely can see this song play on the radio. J.K. Matthews is a hard working young man that has a bright future ahead! I wish his the best of luck with his debut EP which is supposed to come out in the spring 2019.
Don’t miss his new single release on March 15!
Enjoy! Feel free to let me know how you like it and share with your friends.
Today for #FoodFriday I would like to share another yummy recipe that I discovered this week from Cooking Light.
At first, I wasn’t sure about it but told myself I would try it anyway. Let me tell ya, I was surprised. I don’t cook with sage a lot, that’s why I wasn’t sure but I am glad I tried it! It’s not only simple, but it also doesn’t require a lot of ingredients and it’s tasty!
It doesn’t mention to serve it with rice. You could eat it on its own, but I felt it needed something else and the video shows it on rice, so I made plain white rice with it.
Also, I didn’t use the butter and just used the extra juice I had left as a sauce. It would probably taste even better with it but thought I didn’t need the extra fat and I guess it makes it a bit healthier. I would be curious to try it with chicken breast instead of thighs.
I will most definitely do this recipe again!
View instructions here
*** If you try the recipe, I’d love to hear your thoughts!
It was a beautiful day in the Caribbeans. We were on the side of the pool at a beautiful resort and we’ve met this group of people and we had fun and drinking nice cocktails.
Out of a sudden, John Mayer was there telling jokes in the hot tub adjacent to the pool. He was so funny and was crying with laughter. I couldn’t leave his sight. He’s my favorite artist and I was taking advantage of being so close to a celebrity. How often does this happen right?
After approximately an hour, we heard gunshots! Everyone was running in different directions to find a hiding spot. There were so many shots fired, I swear there was more than one shooter. What were they after? Why are they doing this? This seemed unreal!
We were close to the buffet and I was able to find cover in the kitchen, under a table, and at that point, everything became a blur.
That’s when I woke up!
It has been a while since I had a dream I could remember. Most of my dreams don’t make sense… I am not sure what this one meant, but it was disturbing. One thing for sure, meeting John Mayer at a resort and be so close to him is unlikely to happen. For the mass shooting… I am not sure why this was in my dream… maybe I watch too many crime movies? 🙂
Do you like these type of stories? Let me know, maybe I can share my disturbing, non-sense dreams. 🙂
Sometimes darkness suddenly invades my thoughts and I don’t know why. I fight with my thoughts to change my way of thinking trying to be positive. Sometimes with no success or it’s just temporary.
Having expectations can sometimes hurt you. Sometimes, an event that didn’t work as you planned happens, the voice in your head starts to tell you negative things and it’s not really what’s happening… It triggered something deep down and makes old feelings come back from a long time ago and makes you angry, disappointed, depressed or all of the above.
Sometimes your gut tells you it’s real, but what if your gut is wrong and you’re making it up?
Ever since I started high school, I was pretty much a loner. My best friend decided to abandon me for other friends… you know… when we are kids, we do dumb things. That’s pretty much when I started to be a loner and people started to make fun of me because I was always by myself and started to be bullied by others. I lost trust in people and it carries on today. I always found it hard to make friends ever since.
I got better with time, but I cannot say I have a true friend that I can trust at 100% except my parents and husband. I’m always scared of being betrayed.
There are some days, I feel like I can trust people and other days when those feelings resurface, I think that maybe it’s better that I keep it for myself and shouldn’t trust anyone. That I shouldn’t rely on anyone. That’s when I feel alone in this immense world…
Every time, I tell myself that everything will be alright. That what I am feeling right now is just feelings from the past resurfacing and it doesn’t mean it will happen again. I try to ignore these thoughts and tell myself that I have a husband, a family who loves me and that’s all that matters.
Just be you and don’t worry about the little things…
Everything will be just fine!
Today on #FoodFriday, I would like to share with you a recipe from the American Heart Association. I came across this recipe into a monthly email that I receive from my gym.
If you are looking for a simple, light lunch idea, this is a good recipe. It’s healthy and low calories. You can always eat it with a slice of toast with avocado or just a nice piece of bread or by itself if you’re not so hungry.
For tips and directions for this recipe, visit the American Heart Association Recipe Page.
My own advice, make sure to get the 100% pumpkin puree. This was my second attempt to make as my husband bought the pie filling instead of the regular puree the first time I tried it. What a waste! I didn’t realize until I tasted it. OMG, it was so sweet! Made me laugh though. Quite a funny story. 🙂
*** If you try the recipe, I’d love to hear your thoughts!
Today on #FoodFriday, I would like to share a recipe that my friend shared with me from Smitten Kitchen.
The Grilled Zucchini Ribbons with Pesto and White Beans recipe was delicious! This is a great vegetarian option and is also good if you don’t want to spend a lot of money on a meal.
When I did it, I was missing a little of basil, but it was still tasty. I used white kidney beans, but I am sure it would be great with navy beans or other white beans. Maybe even a mixture of different ones. I am also thinking it might be good with chicken or shrimp if you’re not vegetarian.
I will definitely do it again. Click on the link above for the full recipe.
*** If you try the recipe, I’d love to hear your thoughts!