Well, it happened. The news I didn’t want to hear.
Two cases of covid-19 have been reported in my son’s daycare.
I’m going crazy over here. I wish I could stay home with my child until things settle down, but money doesn’t grow on trees and bills won’t pay themselves. I already extended my maternity leave to stay with him longer. I have no choice.
The anxious feeling was starting to go away and then I learned this and it came back. I listen to Christmas music in the car, I start crying. I hold my son and hug him, I start crying. Is it even normal?
In regular circumstances, I would look forward to going back to work. Even a few weeks ago, I was getting excited. I bought myself a desk and computer chair so I can be ready to start in January. This pandemic screwed us big time.
This year was already difficult enough, now this. I hope the cases will disappear by the time my son starts.
I feel like I’m doing everything I can to keep him safe from this virus, but still failing to do so no matter what. I don’t feel in control and it drives me insane!
Never in a million years would I have thought that having a child would change the way I react to different situations.
Before having my son, I thought I was a pretty chill person. Yes, I was overthinking a lot and was nervous about certain situations, but having anxiety that would make me cry in the shower or when I am alone and make me think so much that it keeps me awake at night was not something I thought would happen to me. I always over thought about pretty much everything. I always think of the “what if” in most of the things I do. What will be the short and long term repercussions of that decision?
Now, I have this little human to take care of and I just want the best for him. This pandemic put a lot of sticks in the wheels. I wasn’t able to connect with other moms like I would have if things were normal. I wasn’t able to do activities with other babies to help him socialize. I was pretty much alone for over 12 months. I am grateful my husband worked from home. Made me feel like I wasn’t completely alone and he helped so much. He’s a great father to my son, but it is not the same as connecting with other women dealing with a newborn, now a toddler.
I recently finished my maternity leave, which means that my little man is going to go to daycare soon and I can’t control that. To be honest, I am scared of sending him to daycare with this pandemic. I am sure that it is hard already without the pandemic, but it adds extra stress.
I know it will be best for him. He will be to socialize and learn a lot more than if he stays with me. There are days, that I don’t know if I do enough.
Recently, I realized that even something that will disrupt the routine will create an unbalance. I lose focus and become anxious and emotional… I never was like that.
Christmas is coming so fast and the idea of my son’s first Christmas wasn’t spending it alone. I thought we could spend it with family members. The same goes for his first birthday. This makes me so anxious and sad. You might say, I know that already, that he won’t remember it, but in my head, the first of everything is so important and worth celebrating with your family. Maybe it is more for me, but the fact that I already didn’t have a lot of support this year, makes it even more disappointing.
Having a child of my own along with the pandemic made me realize how important your family is and how much you need them… not having them around is difficult for me…
This month flew by so quickly and was full of milestones. You are on the move! Soon we won’t be able to keep up with you!
This month, you started to lift yourself on your walker all by yourself. All you want to do is walk. You learned to change directions, which makes you a little bit more independent.
You also started to stand up in your crib and started to climb the stairs. You sure know-how, but you have no clue about the danger and distances.
You had your first head bump while walking outside. You drove mommy crazy, as I was worried so much… Even if you played and giggled, I still was feeling anxious for days after.
You started to be so picky with your food it has no sense. Not sure how we will get you to eat the same food as we eat… even your purees you used to like seemed to be a problem. Not sure why, but hopefully it is just a phase.
Mommy went on the slide with you for the first time. I don’t think you cared much, but sure did a fool of myself.
You also started to cuddle more and come for mommy when you are upset which is so sweet. Mommy loves your cuddles.
You recently started to understand that moving on all four is much better than crawling on your stomach.
You are now walking independently yet but surely will come soon.
Mommy is so proud of you, my little angel.
Mom’s guilt has great power over us. You always worry if your kid is alright. You do whatever it takes to keep your kid safe, but you know that you have to step back one day so they learn to make mistakes. Once you loosen a little bit, something happens. Your kid gets hurt. You feel like crap. Then you are all over him and you make sure he’s alright and comforting him. When it’s your first child, you wonder if you need to go to the hospital or not even if it’s barely anything. A bump on the forehead, he cried maybe 5 minutes, maybe even less and now plays as nothing happened.
My son fell outside for the first time today. When I saw the distress in his eyes, I felt so guilty and the anxiety kicked in. I started feeling like I’m a bad mom that I should have seen it coming. In just a split second, he’s on the ground. I don’t even know how it happened. Things happen so quickly when you get distracted even if it’s just a second. I cried and still am when I think about it because you don’t know if things are good, even though he has a smile on his face. I keep your eyes open for signs, just in case. When things like that happen, you wish that you had eyes all around your head so you can see EVERYTHING!
You know that they need to learn, but as a mom, I find it so hard. You just want to overprotect your child, but you know that it’s not good and you will eventually need to step back even more and worry in your inside.
As a first time mom, I guess I have so much to learn. It’s probably a never-ending learning curve. Now that my son moves a lot more, things will become interesting. Today, it was probably more of a scare for him and the first time experiencing pain by falling. It was a first for me too and I’m probably overreacting a little, but as a mom, it’s probably my instinct that kicked in.
This is just the beginning of the adventure, there will be plenty more scare like this one.
Wow! How time is flying by so fast. In 2 more months you will be 1 year old. This makes me sad because you will no longer be considered as a baby. You will be graduating to toddlerhood. In the same time, I am so proud of you. You have accomplished so much!
You are walking with a walker since you’re 9 month old. Now you’re almost running with it and I can see that you’re preparing to try to walk on your own, but you still need to find trust and confidence in yourself.
You started to sit on your own just a few week ago and mommy is so proud of you!
Each day you make new noises! You have these long conversation with us. We don’t understand you, but it is so funny to hear you babble away.
You love throwing things around. Mommy is trying to teach you to put blocks in a bin, but you rather want them out of it and making noise by dumping blocks all over the floor.
You experimented the swing for the first time. You are so calm in it, enjoying the ride, you don’t want to come off it because you loved it so much!
You were miserable for a few weeks. Your top teeth are finally coming out.
You are not sleeping well lately, probably more teeth are coming soon. Mommy hate to see you cry and she wants to cuddle you, but you don’t want to, unless you decide that you want to be cuddled. You have been playing tricks with us the past few days. One day you sleep the whole night, others you cry for 2 hours and we don’t know why.
You have such a strong personality already. We love you as you are! Your smile always brighten our day.
When I became a mom 10 months ago, I promised myself that I will keep myself healthy as much as possible for my son. I want to make sure I live long enough to see my son grow and have kids of his own. By the time he’s 30, I will be 70.
Let me tell you, this is a huge promise and not an easy one. With the COVID-19 pandemic going on, it is hard to motivate yourself to stay active and eat well. I don’t know if you do the same, but it seems we are ordering more take-out and doing recipes that is more comfort food. I buy snacks that I usually wouldn’t.
With gyms closed and in my opinion, I wouldn’t even try to go to a gym. I am a bit scared to catch that virus, so I try to keep my contact very limited. I know the gym owners are doing a great job at disinfecting everything, but still. What’s left for me is doing things at home or outside which is very challenging.
I do try to go for a 5 km run at least twice a week, but I don’t think it’s enough. I make myself feel better by telling myself that at least I do go for those runs, but in my head, this isn’t enough to keep myself healthy, but the situation makes it very difficult.
Every time my husband and I try to do better, we fall into the trap of mutual encouragement of getting that take-out, bag of chips or that drink. Something that we could easily cut, but we still don’t. It is almost like an addiction. When your support person doesn’t help, it is just meant to fail.
Am I the only one struggling with this? What do you do to go back on track?
Tomorrow is a new day, a new beginning.
Life with a child can be hectic. Your kids wanting your attention all day long, leaving very little time to do things around the house or even doing self-care.
Before kids, you were able to manage the housework, have a clean house, make a plan to do things in the house and even time to go out for an afternoon.
When you have kids, trying to achieve what you used to be able to do is nearly impossible. You have to change your mindset and let go of certain things and change your standard quite a bit.
When the time comes to put your kid to bed, all you want to do is lying on the couch doing nothing or even go to bed early. There are so many things that need to get done, but we never get to do it.
For example, we want to repaint our house. There is so much you can do when your child is napping. Painting is not something you can stop fast if your kid wakes up, so this isn’t a job to do on nap time. You have to find little things to do or take the opportunity to sit and relax a little.
My husband is on vacation next week. We are hoping to finally paint the house. I kind of doubt we will be able to do what we want to do. There is no way we can focus both of us on the job at hand. I guess we will see.
The only way to get things done is to have one parent watch the kid while the other does the work.
Being bored with a kid is impossible. Every day is a new adventure. Yesterday he didn’t sleep through the night, last night he did. Go figure. Looks like it’s impossible to know when he will sleep. Maybe he’s just slowly transitioning.
Today he’s been a bit grumpy. I think his teeth are bothering him. It looks like all the four top teeth are coming out at the same time. Poor baby. Tylenol is our best friend lately.
He recently started sitting on his own and wanting to walk, although he can’t walk on his own. A lot is going on in his head right now. Lots of discoveries. Maybe that’s part of why he doesn’t want to sleep.
That is so true! The way I see this is that if you don’t do things you love, you will never be complete. If you do things to make others happy, you will always be incomplete.
Of course, you do need to make some compromise, but you also need to live your life and come mid-way. You still need to do things for yourself. Be you.
When we’re incomplete, we’re always searching for somebody to complete us. When, after a few years or a few months of a relationship, we find that we’re still unfulfilled, we blame our partners and take up with somebody more promising. This can go on and on–series polygamy–until we admit that while a partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives, we, each of us, are responsible for our own fulfillment. Nobody else can provide it for us, and to believe otherwise is to delude ourselves dangerously and to program for eventual failure every relationship we enter.
~ Tom Robbins
Well, that was disappointing. The sleep through the night was just one-off. He woke up a 2 am as usual and didn’t just want his pacifier, he wanted his bottle.
The good thing is that on weekends, my husband wakes up to do the night shift and lucky for him, after his bottle, he went back to sleep easy.
Why doesn’t he do that for me too? Why can’t he go back to sleep right away? That is not fair. 😆
Maybe he will sleep tonight. That is the hope we have every single night, nothing wrong to be optimistic.
Today, I felt a little blue because I went to the store trying to find a tunnel for him to play with. I feel he would love to crawl in it and I didn’t find one.
I’m not sure why I felt that way. Maybe it’s because we are limited on what we can do during this pandemic, and I wanted to have something new for him to have fun with.
Anyway, I know it’s lame because I am sure he’s doing just fine. I guess this is a mom thing. 🙂
Sometimes, when you ask for help, you end up not needing it. Maybe I am talking too fast, but I believe it’s worth mentioning. After asking around about baby sleep and getting advice from people, our son slept through the night without any intervention last night! Usually, we would at least go to give him his pacifier, but last night, nothing at all. That was a first! Ta-Da!
When I woke up this morning, realizing that I haven’t gone once to give his pacifier or to feed him, I asked my husband if he did. He was wondering the same thing. We were both surprised. Even though my son doesn’t understand yet what we’re saying, I told him I was proud of him. That mommy is happy that he slept all night.
So today, I have kept him longer awake. Hopefully, he’s going to do the same thing tonight. That’s what we’re hoping. Is it what’s going to happen? We will know soon enough.
Today was quite challenging mentally for me. Of course, being tired doesn’t help. My son decided that he doesn’t want to sleep from 2 am to 4:15 am. And over that, he’s fighting his naps during the day. He has been doing this for the past week or so.
Sometimes I wish he could tell me what’s going on. Perhaps it’s teething, maybe it’s a stomach ache, or possibly just because he doesn’t want to be alone. I wish he could tell me.
When things like that happen to him, it makes me wonder if I am doing a good job as a mom. Am I doing enough, am I doing the right thing, am I spoiling him too much, should I go and rock him once more or just leave him cry a bit.
When he cries, it breaks my heart.
The funny part is that they say things will get easier, but it feels like it’s getting harder. I had fewer issues when he was two months old than now. Being a mom is the hardest job I have ever done, but when he reaches milestones, it’s so rewarding.
I’ve done some research today and maybe he’s been sleeping a bit too much during the day. I will try to cut his nap a little and maybe that will help him sleep at night.
If you have kids, have you ever gone through this at around 10 months old?
Wish me luck!
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Dear leaf blower guy…
Did you know that after the rain, blowing the leaves will take double the time? Did you know that some people are trying to have their kids down for a nap? Did you know some people need their full concentration to work?
We live in a townhouse complex, and the maintenance guys always come once a week to cut the grass, take away the leaves that fell, but for some reason, they take the longest time to do it, and they are usually four people. Can you imagine all of them using their leaf blower at the same time? They are not consistent in their timing either!
My husband is trying to work upstairs, and me trying to put the baby to sleep for his afternoon nap. I saw them pass in the same spot four times and carrying their pile of leaves around. It rained this morning, and that must not be an easy task to blow the leaves. Why can’t they wait until it dries off a bit? To me, it doesn’t make sense and seems to be time-wasting.
Sometimes I think that it is more time consuming with a leaf blower than use a rake… Yes it can be useful to clear the leaves in difficult to access spots, but is it necessary to make all the noises and for half of the afternoon?
This is it for now with my ranting. Do you guys have disturbances that affect your daily life?
Whether it’s the baby’s difficulty falling asleep or, as a parent, the lack of sleep, this seems to be an issue that as parents have in common. If you’ve read my past blog posts, you already know that we’re having issues with our son’s sleeping pattern.
Most days, he naps good and bedtime goes smoothly, but he wakes up during the night and doesn’t want to go back to sleep. He often keeps us awake for 2 hours.
We try everything… We feed him, rock him. He would toss and turn and wants to sit on our lap. Then we take more strict measures. We let him cry, which I hate very much. We let him cry 5 mins, then check on him, then let him cry 10 mins and so on. When it’s been over 30 mins, I give in. Not sure if it’s right, but I guess I have some mom guilt going on. Sometimes we’re just lucky and he would fall asleep.
The next day though, we’re so tired that it’s hard to motivate ourselves to do some self-care and go exercise.
Any parents out there who go through similar issues? Have you found a solution? I would love to hear about it.
Until next time, if the baby doesn’t sleep tonight, strong coffee will be your best friend in the morning! 🙂